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How to get better at dating apps (Tinder, Bumble and Hinge)

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Dating apps are easy to download and try, but they aren’t so simple to master. In this episode of Workflow, The Verge’s Ashley Carman offers the best tips to succeed on dating apps. You’ll learn how to send the first message, pick your photos, and respond to prompts. The Verge’s sponsors play an important role in funding our journalism, but do not influence editorial content. For more information about our ethics policy, visit https://www.theverge.com/ethics-statement. Subscribe: http://goo.gl/G5RXGs Like The Verge on Facebook: https://goo.gl/2P1aGc Follow on Twitter: https://goo.gl/XTWX61 Follow on Instagram: https://goo.gl/7ZeLvX Read More: http://www.theverge.com Community guidelines: http://bit.ly/2D0hlAv Wallpapers from The Verge: https://bit.ly/2xQXYJr Subscribe to Verge Science on YouTube, a new home base for our explorations into the future of science: http://bit.ly/2FqJZMl
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The Verge (3 months ago)
Which dating app do you use and why?
mlogaN writeS (1 month ago)
Most of them, but 'loventine' has worked the most for me, 2 dates; and 'happen' the less, 0 dates.
NaidiF 。 (3 months ago)
Dear man, here you are take advice how to get fish from a fish
Miyanda Nehwati (3 months ago)
Hinge, more thoughtful answers
drobo (3 months ago)
hookers
goldmaste78 (3 months ago)
some good advice, need to change some of my stuff on my profile
joel garcia (10 days ago)
Some dating apps are boring like meetme and skout...
elitestar (15 days ago)
she's single cause she keeps swiping on chads that only want a pump and dump
Jürgen Strube (20 days ago)
Nice pullover...
ryan (1 month ago)
where are you supposed to get like 20 photos of yourself doing things?
Bananas Bread (1 month ago)
Think of all of people all the effort people put into these capers. They'd better og going down the boozer and just hanging out for a bit on the way home. All this tech, he said commenting on utube, is isolating with virtual "friends". Put the phone down, and get on your bicycle and cycle and reward yourself with a nice pint or cocktail. Mmmm. Groovey.
Justin Dumont (1 month ago)
I love technology
eLem3nT (1 month ago)
Ashley so how much for a handjob??? =)
imanoreotwe (1 month ago)
You seriously messed up on the photos... which is THE most important part
Rahul Sharma (1 month ago)
Hey Ashley! So, did you meet someone online, some time later?
Kelvin Kosbab (1 month ago)
Is that the LEGO Saturn V in the background?!?!??!?!
Rabiah Lewis (1 month ago)
Thanks 😊
Bellock_Grithlus (1 month ago)
I have gotten 2 dates from bumble....guess how many years that took?
richyy nyaks (2 months ago)
Can i date you
Martin S. (2 months ago)
This is kind of like reading the cosmopolitan. I don’t think the advice is bad, but it’s presented in a simplistic way that turns off more sophisticated users away. Also, why are you emphasizing one medium where you obviously haven’t met success? If this were to be truly useful, you’d give equal emphasis on how to better on all media. Not to mention that it’s easy to say “trash humans out there,” but there are millions of humans out there in New York. Are they all trash? I dated in New York for 10 years. And I met some very wonderful and compatible women. And they met me. If you really want to find someone amazing, you can.
Dean Champion (2 months ago)
USELESS
Who searched this?
Fernando Gobbato Padilha (2 months ago)
This is so black mirror!
R Jones (2 months ago)
There should be a dating app where you just pick one thing you're looking for and it pairs you with someone who can only list one attribute, and vice versa. Example: "Nice Cleavage" gets paired with "Fully Loaded BMW Owner" for the shallow pond waders, "MMO Enthusiast" and "Makes Cosplay Costumes" for the geek set, etc. "Down to Earth" cannot be an option (at least not until people understand the meaning of that term.) "People say I'm 'down to Earth'.." Who says that about you? How do you exemplify that description? STOP USING THAT TERM, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!! Sorry. I ranted.
Tanner Herzman (2 months ago)
best dating app is real life!
Tyler H (2 months ago)
What does this have to do with your Workflow?
Daniel (2 months ago)
"How to find your own sexual predator"
OscarDaGenius1 (3 months ago)
“I’m a tech reporter, that’s not very exciting...” Me: What?!!
Anna Kush (3 months ago)
great stuff
Avengerie (3 months ago)
Where my incels at?
edmendoza photography (3 months ago)
The millennial way, full of nonsense and, due to their "ethics", no true love exists, nor it will ever exist.
Holly Leeming (3 months ago)
All the trash humans in New York City? Do you mean the trash men? there are a lot of different cultures in New York are they all trash? How do these men on the app know your not trash? You radiate arrogance, could that be part of the reason your single?
Jellykrop (3 months ago)
But why would I want to date an app? 🤔
Alex (3 months ago)
I liked you, i live in brooklyn. Can i invite you out?
saintwithatie (3 months ago)
2:00 "It takes a long time to fill out your Hinge profile. You have to include a bunch of photos and answer a bunch of questions." lolwut? You only have to upload six photos, answer three prompts, and fill in some other basic info.
Mexicomank2 (3 months ago)
For everyone who says "step 1 be attractive" that's your problem . You don't focus on being fun or social or assume you have in the bag or not care if it doesn't work and move on to other women because there's lots of em . Like just be the best you !!!! And be confident really 90% of the work if a women thinks your looks are a deal breaker someone else might find you cute
Ryan Chan (3 months ago)
5:00 - 'try a confident statement' ... 'spinach and artichoke dip is the best'....
Andrew Williams (3 months ago)
If you’re a man you should delete all dating apps from all and any device you own.This is the best advice that I or anyone else can give. I’ve done it and now I’m in a happy relationship. I can’t promise the same for everyone but I know you’ll be better off.
Kajoro Bitterthorn (3 months ago)
Mad Men definitely is better than Boardwalk Empire.
Brian (3 months ago)
WAIT......... Is she really still rocking an iPhone 6 in 2018? Respect.
Derek Jonez (3 months ago)
Buffalo chicken dip is awesome! I thought it sounded terrible, but I'll try something even if I think I won't like it, because that's fair, right? Anyway it was awesome!
Sirui Gu (3 months ago)
" Trash human in NYC" hhhh, man, this lady got real heart hurts from nyc trashes.?
Prezla men (3 months ago)
For morons...
Garvas313 (3 months ago)
How to get better at dating apps? Not using them!
IDroneYou (3 months ago)
But your still single? Not sure how this helps. Be your self point black.
Nick&Kiki (3 months ago)
nope never her always someone else...lol
Ammar Abotouk (3 months ago)
no I F#$%ing hate selfie
bullseye (3 months ago)
Tech reporting not very exciting?! You’re being a little too hard on yourself!
Zac Jones (3 months ago)
W.T.F
KC Diaz (3 months ago)
I'm single too and a tech nerd. A tech professional, pretty boring. I also like food, but I am on a seafood diet. I sea food I eat it. Dips are essential to all parties ... when I dip, you dip we dip. I have 20/20 vision but, I wear glasses because, they make me look smart. From California.
Chris Cabezas (3 months ago)
Ok. I watched the whole video and did learn something. Going to use more statements and less questions. That being said, I really disagree with your photo choices. Guys don't care that you like fancy food. We all eat food, it's not special. The beautiful picture of you that you self vetoed was my favorite.
Tone 999 (3 months ago)
Tinder banned me for no reason.
Ali Haider (3 months ago)
Hi
Reza Esfahani (3 months ago)
all i got was bots bots bots and more bots :/
Dillon Laframboise (3 months ago)
sObEr LaNgUaGe
HIGHTONE (3 months ago)
Grindr...
DimusTech (3 months ago)
To be honest I'm sort of frustrated with dating apps and "dating life" but I can tell that you are an awesome person so I really wish you luck and finding someone who will truely deserve you.
fidelio (3 months ago)
you'd be a great catch; smart, industrious, well spoken, and thoughtful. best of luck in your search.
SaceedAbul (3 months ago)
Just follow rules 1 and 2 and your set
Red Hood (3 months ago)
How to get laid efficiently and effectively with the verge
John Gyver (3 months ago)
Nice video, but separate app for serious relationship and another app for fling etc? I thought I could find a variety of people with different objectives on any of these popular dating apps.
K. LOUK (3 months ago)
"Swipping on Tinder feels kinda superficial to me" this is wrong in so many ways...
youtube red (3 months ago)
sometimes go out and have conversations with real person
shashank shekhar (3 months ago)
Paid by Hinge* Lolol
Anuj Rana (3 months ago)
How about I binge watch season 3 of Daredevil
Astro Gabba (3 months ago)
is the Saturn V at the wall the one made by LEGO ?
jasonbecker (3 months ago)
Step one: Be white (unless you're in a very large city).
Dysnomia Eris (1 month ago)
Most attractive men I've seen on those apps are usually not white...just saying
Kavonn Thomas (2 months ago)
jasonbecker you're not wrong lol
Benjamin Hogervorst (3 months ago)
Creepy and nasty.
Suryashekhar Das (3 months ago)
lol
Kyuso KK (3 months ago)
Please just dont verge
Bryant Mitchell (3 months ago)
All I have are selfies ‘cause I have no friends 😭
Mohammed Kamal (3 months ago)
Very bad episode as a nerd why should i be with anyone i prefer to spend my time with console watching a movie or using social media
Thomas NA (3 months ago)
"This is bad content, because I happen to not be interested in it"
Zach Risinger (3 months ago)
Honestly, I quit dating apps a long time ago. I’ve had way more luck just randomly finding people on Instagram I have mutual friends/interests with.
Tiff Tom (3 months ago)
Great video! I recently discovered your podcast, really love it!
Frank Bottazzo (3 months ago)
...or you could just come to Italy AND change your eyeglasses frame. We will devour you
Jesus Castro (3 months ago)
Live your glasses, totes adorbs
Bruno (3 months ago)
I'm going to be honest, I don't get the whole thing of desperately trying to find someone. You should live your life and start a relationship if and when the opportunity occurs. It should be a natural thing.
Bruno (3 months ago)
The whole video just seems so futile.
Aakash Jhaveri (3 months ago)
y'all running out of ideas
frosted1030 (3 months ago)
Why are dating apps reviewed by single people in any way going to show the effectiveness of said app? It's like asking someone that has never tasted chocolate to choose which color of chocolate has the best taste..
Strand (3 months ago)
What if I looked like Shrek?
Felipe Baez (3 months ago)
Want to meet someone? Go out of home, interact with people IRL. The state of things in this area is just sad.
Ariel Villalobos Cruz (3 months ago)
Hey Ashley, spinach artichoke dip is the best
José Branco (3 months ago)
First world problems.......
Ironic (3 months ago)
Sooooo shouldn’t we be getting advice from someone who actually went through this and formed a real relationship? Obviously if she’s still on the app and is teaching us something’s not right.
Gabriel Fung (3 months ago)
1. Be Handsome / Pretty 2. Be Attractive 3. Don't Be Unattractive
Tefen Ca (7 days ago)
You forgot: Be Very Wealthy
Luca laurin (3 months ago)
a fellow reddit user I see
Crisna Alaircon (3 months ago)
What the hell does she know
michael mac (3 months ago)
Why did capital one sponsor this video ?
Adrian K (3 months ago)
May the odds be ever in your favor! Also, spinach dip is WHERE IT'S AT!
Jordan (3 months ago)
At first: oh look another video by Ashely going over something more personal and less tech. 0.2 seconds after she refers to every one as trash humans for why she's single: ok I am 100% on board and feel this
Emilio Martínez (3 months ago)
I wish I lived in New York... Here in my hometown I get that "there's no one to swipe to" message after 5 people
JOJO JOYCE (4 days ago)
Emilio Martínez oops
Derek Magnuson (3 months ago)
So this is how Capital One chooses to spend it’s money?
Alexey P (3 months ago)
Ty, just got banned on Tinder for swiping left most of the time :(
flish0 (3 months ago)
you'd think the stay away from group shots and potential SOs in your pics thing would be common sense but clearly it is not..........
Youtube Channel (3 months ago)
I use the same opening line everytime. And I'm amazed it actually works.
Youtube Channel (3 months ago)
😂 my ex literally had a photo of her and her mum on her profile
Yash (3 months ago)
Wow, this is depressing.. So nobody meets people these days outside before totally knowing each other from an app or is it just a New York thing?
Monkey Puzzle (3 months ago)
Grindr is a "dating" app? What heterosexual nonsense is this
CloudsLikeThese (3 months ago)
WHAT ON EARTH IS PIZZA DIP???? TELL ME THIS INSTANT.
CloudsLikeThese (3 months ago)
I just searched Youtube and will be collating the best recipes and dreaming about pizza dip for the next 12 hours if anyone needs me.
Gaurav Marik (3 months ago)
Hey what if I find my worst date cuz of you.. can I curse you.. please..
Crazy Chris (3 months ago)
There really isn't a means of "getting better" at dating apps. Either you're visually attractive and in the upper 5% of men on said services or you're not. No amount of rewriting your profile, taking photos with beautiful women or bullshitting your height will change that. Everything I said applies to men only as women have it far, far easier and literally have to do NOTHING outside of make an account and watch the thirst pour into their inboxes, where they have an infinite number of choices and likely end up never making up their mind and actually meeting who they match up with. So the question is: Do dating apps actually help the majority find love or hinder it? Easy answer: absolutely not. The developers of dating apps don't actually want you to find love because that means one less user for their fan base, which means less exposure and revenue. Dating apps are a massive ripoff on all counts for the majority, so don't use them. Meet your future ex wife/husband through a friend or something.
Ricardo de Benavente (3 months ago)
Really??
Edwin Contreras (3 months ago)
i've been blessed with being 6'4" and cursed with being an introverted nerd.
Macon Clark (3 months ago)
"Sponsored by Hinge"😂
Skiny Celo (3 months ago)
only people with bulimia, doesn't like to eat..
AC Gaming and Gadgets (3 months ago)
Tech reporter? Not very exciting? That sounds interesting to me! You have photos of yourself eating food, and eating more food and answer the question with a food related answer. Wow you like food? How original.

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