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Is it okay to date younger men? How can you trust guys (in general) after an abusive situation? How do you not get emotionally attached too early? What to do with exes?
We've picked out a mixed bag of reader questions to answer in today's video. Be sure to leave more below which I'll try to get to in a future video!
Nothing like a younger man. I truly enjoy the moments I share when I have the opportunity to date one. It is not about the number of years you are with someone, rather it is about the time you enrich yourself with a wonderful person. :)
Regarding the age difference 10 years these days is not a big deal. I am a young 50 and my partner is 24. Yes...I said it. I am a young 50 and don't look my age. I was not interested when he started to pursue me but after 8 months and dating men close to my age who were pigs I decided to go for it. In the beginning I thought it was just chemistry and sex but it is so much more. We have much in common and never get bored. I think he is an old soul. Nobody knows what the future is. One year or ten years down the road. I am happy and to me that's all that matters for now. I know if something ever happened and we were not physically together anymore we will always be there for each other. The advice you are giving I don't think is accurate. You need to experience it first or get it from a couple who are experiencing it.
I think he and I should start a YouTube vlog.
Thank you for your advise on abuse & moving on. Something I'm still struggling with & working on. I was really open about it & went for it but still backfired this time but I'm open to keep trying. There are good men out there.
Well mate, I have older and younger ex girlfriends; when I was aged up from 14 to 16, I dated girls at the ages of 16, 17 and 18 and when I was 17, I dated 2 16 year old girls at college; 1 lady after the other, although one of them wasn't right for me as she was cheating on me, lying and then bullying me and some other people; there was one time when she kept phoning throughout the middle of the night and then threatening to come and trash my house up. So I said to her "Do you know what babe? I don't want to go out with you anymore. I can't deal with your arrogance anymore!". So I ended up with an English girl my age, called Kayleigh, who seemed very much mature, quiet, nicer and relaxed. I like mature, slim and attractive older ladies in their 20s and 30s only but sometimes, if I do get a girlfriend my age or younger than me but as long as she's in her early 20s. Although, I am 24 years old now, and I am currently autistic special needs, and I have grown up and matured a lot, and all my ex girlfriends are English except for 2 of them; one of them was Irish and the other one was Spanish. I have never abused a girl in my life and I'd never ever treat a female wrongly!
it is said that men are more immature than women. So my son is 32 ..left his wife and a 7 year old daughter for a woman who is 53. She picked him up when he went with friends on holiday .. she knew he was married with a child and they had an affair for more than a year before he left his wife .She is divorced with two teenage kids and gets a fat maintenance from her ex lawyer husband.. so she spends money on my son .. Personally we are not impressed that he is bedding a cougar the same age as his mother ...and we see no future in the relationship. she is also Jewish and he not .. but oh well ... not our place to get involved if he wants to screw up his life .. if it lasts , at least she will have someone to push her wheelchair and to carry her bedpans. that's if she has not booted him out after she has finished playing with him . People who know her say when is a real bitch and that she will boot him in time to come . Apparently the and get friends ..all divorced ... do this .. pick up young guy's for sexual satisfaction then dump them when a better flavor comes along..
This is really killing me. My boyfrd is 24yrs and am 26yrs l love him he has no money but l believe we shall make it since we are all working and his determined, now here is my issue, we are from different neighbouring countries, am afraid since he comes from a country my dad has roots from bit doesn't like it will they approve it
And for his side am affriad because he comes from a family having roots of Arabs will they approve him to inter marriage.am also afraid of settling in his country that l don't know that much was thinking we should be based abroad and go home for visits.am l right.
I was pursued by a lovely man 12 years younger than me (I was 46, he was 34). He loved kids, however I've never had kids, never wanted kids and wasn't about to start at that age. He was smitten and said that didn't matter, however I couldn't help but fast forward 10 years and see a man who regretted his decision and a woman who was starting over again aged 56. Not long after that I met the love of my life who is 3 years older than me, with similar life experience and points of reference, and we're both comfortable in ourselves and our relationship. I do think this works better.
I'm 19 and I like a 30 y/o man.. he seems fine (not too horny or pedophillic🤣) and I'm pretty realistic but I'm scared... What are some restrictions or realities that might appear throughout the relationship? I really can't stand guys who are under 8 years older than me bc of my father... My father always abused my mother and he was 1 year younger. I know where my problem is but I wanna know how I can know if that man want me for sex or a relationship cause I'd like to know what I'm dealing with from the beginning
Most of the time it happens with me when I am watching ur video I get so much involved in watching ur smile they way u talk... I totally distract that what u r saying and then I rewind the clip and listen again :)
My boyfriend is a year and 8 months younger then me he'll be turning 18 in May and I just turned 19. I was a little weirded out by it at 1st but then I realized how we get along perfectly and its not to much of an age difference. We've been dating almost 3 months know it's new still so anything can happen but I plan on being with this man for a very long time!
I have strong feelings for a man 19 years younger than me. I feel like there is a big issue with the age because I'm nearing my 40s and he's just starting his life. Theres the issue of children, etc. I'm so torn.
Great little vid. I recently started dating a man 20 years younger than me. I was hesitant at first but actually, we are having an absolute ball! Yes, I do make references to stuff that happened before he was born. I'm getting better but he still looks at me and reminds me that when we met he thought that I was younger than him. Ironically, when I was his age my boyfriend was 18 years older than me. I lost him to cancer before we were able to marry and this guy reminds me of that man in some ways. Enter Twilight Zone music...
My dear friend dated a man 24 years younger than she and they have had a glorious relationship! They became married (he is mad about her!) and have been married for 20 years!!!! They are two care free people who are low or no drama and when I am in their house, I fee the peace in the house. Lots of laughter and , well, they cant keep their hands off each other. Still. LOL So it does work at times.
Younger men could be possibly be VERY immature. I just broke up with my bf who was 15 years younger. He was emotionally abusive and very insecure. I had to end it due to his frequent emotional outbursts. I should have ended it months earlier but the chemistry was great. It's unfortunate but I couldn't age with him. He was an emotionally abusive asshole.
The thing is they’ll tell you and try to show you they’re an old soul. But in time you will see how immature they are in their decisions and including you as one of their priorities... it just sucks coz the energy that I wasted for this guy.... is huge. I knew I fell for him but he needs to know my value and standards ... ended up not working out coz I pulled the plug.
I prefer a guy who is too close to my age ..because its not hard to talk your points of view or some important matters because he already can relate specially if he was already had experience hving younger ladies on his life before ..he can easily relate to my likes nd dislikes both ways for us ...i have no interest eversince to younger man younger to my age .
I was in a relationship with my 7 years older Ex & he was scared getting married and kids with me bc I had put him under pressure with this. So he left me, even we had seen all qualitys in eachother. So now one year later, I'm still single and I had no sex for one year, in my neibourhood is this young guy (22years) and I'm 31. He has chase me years before & now again. But now I realised he has a really bih thing in his pants and he is pretty too. But I'm scared bc I think he knows that we have no future. He only want sex I think. I'm sure he only want sex. I would love to sleep with him so bad. But I know how its gonna end :((( Today I asked him if he want to watch a movie together and he answered "he is tired from working and not into it today" hmmmm it already has start before we even slept together - GREAT :(
I have truly learned to see the importance and value in being with a person that is in the same stage of life. If one of you have been married and already have children but doesn’t want more children or another marriage and the goal of the other is exactly this it will be a challenge. I have experienced exactly this when dating younger men. Regardless of what you feel you will not be able to give what partner want and it might be better not to move forward at all. Talking from experience.
After reading many of the comments below, I see that a lot of people are afraid of getting hurt. Well, you can get hurt dating someone your own age, too. The only thing that would preclude dating someone much older or younger would be the desire to have children. If that's important, it's probably better to date in your age range. So, go after what makes you happy.
I was looking at a feature on vegetables when I saw your headline. I am a 71 yr old woman, in love with and living with a man who just turned 48. I have two sons, 46 and 43. My sweetheart and I met at work--I retired in 2014 at age 67. We fell in love the minute we met--and I will admit , there was and remains a huge sexual attraction. We are intellectually matched, and both have the same sense of humor. We like to do the same things, and we are alike politically. We are sexually very compatible, and are very physically affectionate. We both had a bad marriage. We have been together since 2012. I have a small retirement, he works and provides for his two teenage daughters. So, it's not about money. Yes, sometimes people make fun of us, but we just laugh because none of them has as good a life as we do, especially between the sheets. We fantasize what life would have been like if we had been the same age. My only sorrow is that he will be left behind when I die. But I have made him promise he will find someone who loves him as much as I do. My dying wish will be that he will find her.
I used to be in an abusive relationship, both mental and physical. 5 years ago when I broke free, I never felt more free, but since I was in that relationship for 6 years, it took a long time to recover, and build myself again. It takes time, but definitely worth it. Women should ask themselves, "would heartbreak be worth my freedom?" yes! definitely! you will build yourselves again and probably find someone better than him. there is someone way better than him, that is worth your time and heart. someone who doesn't beat you up, someone who respects you. You are stronger than this, it's his loss, not yours! Freedom is so great, doing anything at all with no fear, and no looking over your shoulder.
Whoever is willing to break free from poisonous relationship, I support you completely!! ❤
I really like how professional and careful you are when dealing with these delicate issues. You are an excellent example of what everybody should try to emulate in order to achieve better understanding with the opposite gender.
I moderate a small group (about 40 people) of singles over 50 and many of them display fear of previous relationships with experiences of either abuse or sad losses. (We get together to have fun and try to understand relationships in a casual way).
At this age we don't feel old enough to quit and we want to love again, but we are not young kids anymore so many of us want to be extra careful before entering a new relationship with the potential for pain.
Your way of explaining how to go into a new relationship with a clean slate is very wise and I will recommend them to watch this particular video. The only problem is that, sometimes, many wounds run so deeply that people react in negative ways without noticing those reactions are rooted in the fear of past experiences.
As a saying goes: the teacher will teach only when the student is eager to learn (or something like that) so we can only hope people will be able to understand they are afraid and try to heal before jumping into another abusive relationship.
Your videos spark that curiosity that leads to understanding of our deep selves.
Great contributions to the only power in the universe: Love.
Thank you very much!
I like younger men because I have a young energetic spirit and have always looked at least 10 years younger and find men my age can't keep up with me. Women in my family live to their 90's and statistically, women out live men 10-15 years. I don't want to be a widow in my 70's and spend 20 years alone looking for a mate. So...I met a guy and we didn't know each other's age when we met. He looked much older than I but I tried not to be concerned with that because we had a lot in common. We really hit it off immediately and were like two 16 year old kids always smiling, laughing and enjoying each other. We couldn't get enough of each other and was getting to be really good friends, connecting on many levels including romantically. Two months into the relationship, I realized I was actually 10 years older than he. This concerned me as I had seen evidence of insecurity in him needing validation through things, big house, fancy car, all about things to validate him to make him 'look' successful and he'd previously married a woman he didn't love because she was beautiful and would make him look good. This was a 52 year old man. One night after we'd spent the night at his place, I told him I was 10 years older than him. He had no clue and thought I was about 5 years younger than he. When I told him, he couldn't get me out of his house fast enough and looked at me like I was disgusting and/or had a horrible contagious disease. He wouldn't even look me in the eye when he asked me to leave. No further communication from him, just gone. I know it's his issue, but it still really sucked because this is the first guy in 17 years of being single after divorce that I really felt a connection with. Am I doomed to be alone?
What is it about older women that many young men find so attractive? For a while I wondered if they had mommy issues (well come on, some do)... then I wondered if it was the experience (again, come on...some just want a teacher)... I've even wondered if it's the confidence that only comes with a certain level of, errrr umm, maturity (need I say it again.??lol...come on, okay....I have nothing on this one...😂).
I'm not complaining, the attention can be nice, a boost even, I am simply filled with curiosity and would love to have some input, please.
Matt is very true on his statement of the age difference. As per my experience one of the 2 've to get adapted to the life of the other one to have some balance without forgetting priorities for the relation and for each one personal achievements. In my case I gave all I could with no limits and I end up empty with broken heart...I ve done an investment without receiving anything...not just about material things but I was just expecting this person to change for good after all I 've done...but my biggest mistake was to over come with all carrying myself all responsibilities and there was the big fault. I can't blame him as he was just enjoying time with me on my cost ...sadly everything end up just in pieces...emptyness...so be careful in what u give and set limits for every aspect of the relationship.
When you got abused before, build walls around you to protect yourself. Men who abuse women are the weakest and most insecure creatures. They hurt their partners to gain control. They make their partners the problem all the time. They dont see themselves as the monsters but you are. The right man for you will climb those walls to be with you. He will help you heal and learn to trust again. No matter how you shut yourself down, he will make you feel loved and worthy. Only a genuine and strong man can do that.
1. It depends. If you are mature enough 10 years between two people can not be a problem. 2. I can relate to that. Once i was in an emotional abusive relationship and after that it is hard to trust but it is possible. Anyway thank you for this video.
I love older women i find them way more attractive then a younger women but its hard to find women who are into younger men because they care so much about age like wth if i was older what would be the difference i mean mature enough to date an older women what does my age have to do with me being turned down
I am dating a younger man. That's not the problem he is not on any dating sites that's how we met. He is only dating me i believe it. But he says it's ok if i am on a dating site. WHAT? What does that mean. It is a 2 month relationship, he has always said he wants to take it slow. He is very busy also?Help
I’m texting a younger man right now and I haven’t asked him his age yet I just know he’s younger. We’ve been connecting amazingly and I know it won’t end in anything serious but gosh he is insanely sexy. My plan is just to have a bit of fun for a little while as I’ve been single for almost 2 years now then end it before any serious feelings develop. I’m meeting up with him in 6 days for the first time and even tho it’s not going anywhere I’m still soooooo nervous.
It's funny how i watch these videos thinking it would apply to me when he's only 11 months younger that i am
Funny how society plays a role in how you think sometimes even when you personally never cared about it
I was with someone 17 years younger for over ten years... In my opinion, that big of a spread is a problem if they have an unhealthy attachment to their parents. Every time her quit drinking or smoking, his parents would give him booze and cigarettes...I saw him through 31 times in the hospital for seizures and through 7 rehabs. It 'might' have worked one day, but his parents would never allow it. I honestly will probably never get involved with anyone who has that strong of an attachment to his parents again. In fact, I will make an effort not to get involved with anyone who has living parents again.g
I met a young guy but I feel he just want to have fun and i have 2 kids i think he just want yo sleep with me and later dump me sad but is true ....and i never hear from him after work and weekends he told me he exercise and couch soccer after but is somebody really like he will put an effort to know about u ok very sad....
Most of the girls think.. Maturity comes with age.. so they actually think older men are more mature than younger men..That's really a wrong mentality about a person... Love a person for who they are to you.... That means that person should be loyal, good, etc and should be mature in his thinking and how he acts regardless of age..I still don't get why most of the girls think.. Maturity comes with age.. If girls are thinking about a guy's job..I mean financial stability.. for example..a 20 year old guy (imagine he is younger than you) can get a financial stability if he has the brains and talents to do it.. Than a guy who is 30 years old (imagine this guy is older than you) who still hasn't got a job yet... All I can say is... Love a person for who they are to you.. how they treat you.... This message is to both men and women...
Its interesting that he said that, especially now that he's dating a 20 year old woman, so now that he's right in the middle of that topic he'll be able to advise us more on that ;) like Roro said you can meet someone with a young number who has a very old soul and vice versa....what i find sad and annoying is that it's still ok for men to date younger women even very young.....but for women to do that it's still not accepted, you can be sure they will say something like: oh he's gone dump u as soon as he find someone much younger .....or as soon as you will show aging signs he will disapper...........
Actually i have questionS lol! is it the true nature of men then? do we have to be beautiful and fresh and that is all?? And what happened when we are not fresh as we used to be? and we are not attracted to men in our age group? And what about the lack of confidence that we start to go through when we are still single but heads don't turns toward to us as they used to?
i don't think any videos's been made on that !
Matthew if you read this ! i would love to hear what you have to say on that!
I personally believe if the older person is in a place in their life where they want to be. Love for the other person will help them along the way to where they feel they need to be. Patience, integrity and l love will allow you both to embrace the journey
Matthew blatantly ignoring his own advice currently. Don't date outside of about 6 years either way because age difference become very realy between the ages of 30 and 40. Aging really kicks in around 30 so while you can date the person 10 years your younger or older at some point it will become obvious that the age difference exists and will likely result in issues...
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